Focus on The Living

No wonder my interest for writing is starting to wane.
I started writing to offer information and insight into the mind of someone with a life threatening cancer who also has to continue living.
I started because I believed in the genuine good of people and their ability to rise above pettiness when others are in need.

Unfortunately, even those who have suffered still get distracted and focus on the few rough spots in an arena that is genuinely trying to achieve good.
I have joined the health care reform debate because the current system is adversely affecting me and my family. The constant refusals of care and fighting with insurance company after pharmacy after hospital billing department can not be done alongside fighting cancer
Miss Anonymous
You are entitled to your opinions; however, your opinion won’t change the fact that abortion has been legal since the 1970s, and it has been federally funded through the social welfare system for years.
I don’t believe the Pitts-Stupak Amendment will be removed from legislation.
I, personally, agree with it.
That does not change that being pro-life in this instance means being anti-choice.
It is the same as insurance companies denying care by denying payment.
No one wants to go back to the era where a knitting needle was a teenager’s abortion. There is a definitive line between church and state. Whether this amendment is included in reform or not, I believe agencies that provide abortions will continue to be funded through the social welfare system.
Health Care and Social Welfare are two different pieces of a whole.
I, too, have studied how birth control and abortion talks relate to the health care system.
My very first experience was about 7.5 years ago when I started seeking an abortion for myself. I don’t think you are any more educated in the system than I am.
I can tell you that there is no feeling more desperate than knowing you are going to bring a child into this world with no means to care or feed it, not even being unable to breathe and know that you could be minutes away from dying.
I was lucky and relieved to have the ability to choose my route. During my pregnancy I had several friends who came to me with the secret they were pregnant. All had abortions. They all came from single mother, low income, inner city up bringing.
One of those women received her MBA. She bought her own home outside the projects.
Another went on to be a police officer in New York patrolling the streets of Harlem.
These women were able to be successful and happy in their own lives because they were given the choice not to have a child.

Taking away their ability to choose abortion takes away their ability to choose to rise above their upbringing.

And something tells me, though you oppose their decisions, you wouldn't be able to babysit so they could still accomplish their dreams of giving their children a better life than they had.
If you were available to assist, you would all ready be doing so, like my family does.

I was able to keep my child because I had a loving partner and supportive family.
The flip side, the alternate route I could have taken, would have been to have the child with no means of support, just like many of my friends.
I would have been given WIC, Section 8, and medical care, my child through healthy kids and I through Medicaid.
I would have been receiving tax payer support upon my diagnosis.
At that point, I not only would have been able to receive social security disability, but social security for my son, and social security income due to my lack of assets (anything under $4000).
This route would have had tax payers and hospitals footing the 2+ million dollar health care bill for my treatment.
There are many who choose to do this. In my experience, having the government assist in alleviating my health care bills through medicare has made my life easier and stress free.
I’m sure you are no more keen on supporting unwed mothers than you are on abortions.
I can only conjecture since you are remaining anonymous and telling nothing of yourself that your health care coverage must have been taken care of through your healthy husband or the state.

You must never have suffered the paralyzing fear of possibly having to stop treatment due to reaching insurance maximums.

You must never have worked through an extensive GI surgery for fear you would lose your job and insurance coverage.

You probably haven't woken up from a coma to immediately be greeted by a phone call from an insurance company dropping your coverage and charging $7000 to do it.

Otherwise, you would not be concerned with such pettiness.

You would be concerned that good people, even with insurance, do not have access to care in our current system, and that often, is a death sentence for them.
Please, in the future, focus on the living.
God in his infinite wisdom gave us all free will. It is not anybody’s place to judge our choices except his.
As Americans we must continue to allow and protect people’s freedom of choice, even if this means allowing others to make their own mistakes.
I’d prefer in the future that if anybody has an opinion they’d like to discuss that they identify themselves and remain civil.

And as for those 10 million who "may" lose their coverage in the future, there will be a safety net in place through a public option or government sponsored co-op that does not exist for the 46 million + working class poor that don't have coverage today.